Wolves Riding Bears.

There have been times, like these, before now, that I’ve lost pretty much all faith in the prospect of trusting other people. If you want something done, it’s better to remain on your own without fear of dispute or complications involving negligence and general selfish wankery. Also, it’s that whole ‘A Donkey is a Horse designed by comity’ argument that is just basically the problems with trying to decide on something with more than one person. It might not come out how you wanted it to; therefore you could consider it inferiour, trying to compromise to please everyone involved. ‘Too many cooks spoil a broth’, etc. Basically, it’s a general problem. Putting faith in other people is often just hoping for something better than is received, eventually. You start to pretend; fool yourself that you can actually lay at least some kind of responsibilities with somebody else; to turn up, bring something, or just generally remember to keep to what they told they would do. Also, it’s just rude. It’s rude to just assume it’s fine and that I should consider it fine, also. Most people who do this kind of thing end up just turning around, when the problem is mentioned to them, with indignation. They shouldn’t have to answer to it, but will anyway, with arrogance and spite:

‘It’s your fault for letting it annoy you.’

‘It’s your fault for making “a big deal” out of it’

People seem to have problems just generally admitting to their own faults, so they attack the “accuser” (but more like, ‘informer’. But they would probably use ‘Attacker’), hoping to throw them off and to avoid the possible idea of admittance. It’s cowardly, is what it is.

You’re using the other person as a scapegoat in your feverous attempts to avoid any form of truth that you may perceive to be negative.

They often refer to the other as a possessor of the same negative traits, ultimately implying that they are somehow hypocrites and therefore, unqualified to judge that person. Whether the person accusing is or is not guilty of this problem, it’s not their turn, it’s yours, to pay the price for your ignorance.
Also, the common defence is to just accuse the other of knowing too little. For example; you and a friend plan to meet, and the other friend doesn’t turn up at the allotted time. You ring/text them and ask them as to why. It turns out that they’ve found themselves busy with some other issue. Work, maybe, it doesn’t really matter what exactly. Then you, rightly so, are annoyed by their lack of communication before hand. You’ve made the effort to turn up, and they’ve told you the news, late, and on request (you shouldn’t need to actively ask, they should have told you pre-meeting) and when you complain about it, they act like you’ve done something wrong.

“I’m a busy person”

There’s generally no remorse for the confusion of the fact that they’ve put the other person out. It’s generally insensitive and it’s incredibly anti-social. It shows that you don’t really care what effort they’ve done to meet you and all that matters is how you’re feeling. They might have travelled by many a bus and hour to come, just to see you, in a city centre, and you’ve left them to do that, without warning of the pointlessness of that, ultimately. And even if there was no way to get the news to them before they caught that bus, at least have the decency to be empathic and apologetic for the mistake. It may not have been avoidable, but, you have a duty as a friend to be remorseful that you disappointed your friend. Besides, you should at least be annoyed that you couldn’t be with your friend. Have some respect for your friend; the friend that put their faith in you, that of which, you failed.

Remember, for next time.